Parent Delusional Disorder: the Seven Word Recovery Program

I just love to watch you play! That’s what I want my kids to know. That’s what I came for. Not to show you off. Not for bragging rights. Not even to celebrate when you win, although that’s nice when … Continue reading

Bringing Out Their Best: motivation as art and story

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Once upon a time there was a little girl. She could really catch and really throw, but the thing she could do best was hit. Every time up, she swung that bat and sent the ball way into the outfield. … Continue reading

Deep Practice: The Secret Weapon the Caterpillar Teaches

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Everyone who has ever played the game well remembers the day it felt effortless. Smooth on the club, crisp in the hands, the timing is perfect, the loft just right, the backspin just so: swoosh, woosh, bam, pop. Even the sound … Continue reading

Leaving a Lasting Legacy: “Team on 3″

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What culminating gift do you give to the coach and manager who gave you everything? Team Avalanche chose this brick, now laid in the walkway at the College of William & Mary. It reads: Chas and Sally Sumser “Team on … Continue reading

The Second Secret Behind Coach Sumser’s Success: “I showed up at their plays and performances.”

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Last week I introduced you to Chas Sumser, the “no-cut” coach, formerly of the Loudon Vipers boys team and then the Leesburg FC Avalanche girls team. Both teams he agreed to take on at the request neighboring children who asked … Continue reading

The Secret Behind Coach Chas Sumser’s Success: No Cuts Ever

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There are only two kinds of coaches in this world: those who cut players and those who don’t. Chas Sumser doesn’t. Oh, we would all love a dream team. You know, one where you scan down your roster and find … Continue reading

How (Not) to Raise a Narcissist

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We are raising narcissists, or so a new study reports. The study, authored by Brad J. Bushman, PhD, professor of communication and psychology at the Ohio State University, asked 565 children aged 7 to 11 years – the years when kids … Continue reading

Early Sports Specialization: Safe, Sorry or Simply Unable to Say No?

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“At what age should they specialize?” Shelby asked me at the book signing. She had her two boys in tow. Her daughter was away on a weekend retreat, so she found herself with a freer schedule than usual. The son in question was … Continue reading

Physical Literacy, the Long Term Investment We Make in Our Kids

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Kids are expensive these days, aren’t they? Toys, games, school supplies, activities, classes, technology and fashion. We want to give our children the best of things, but replacing the $100 graphing calculator three times because they can’t find the last … Continue reading